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Planning advice from newlyweds

Newly-married women give sage advice

Share the load with your spouse-to-be

Be excited, and organized. My husband did a lot of the work with me (I am an awful decision maker, so I gathered information and options, and my husband helped make the decisions), so use each other’s strong suits. Communicate expectations and be willing to compromise. Don’t freak out if something doesn’t go exactly how you wanted it to, whether during the planning stages or on the actual day. Use help when you can, and be creative. Make sure that if you have to travel between venues, you have directions prepared ahead of time and all of your guests have them! But mostly, don’t forget the most important thing about this day: You are marrying the love of your life, and that is the only thing that matters in the end. – Christine

Take your time!

Be patient! Don’t always go for the first deal! Shop around, and don’t be afraid to ask for a cash discount. Many vendors would rather take your cash instead of a credit card because they don’t have to pay the 3 percent to the credit card company! Also, don’t be afraid to ask people to help you. You have friends and family that want a job to do. Give them one!  – Jennifer

Retain your vision

Don’t let anyone change your vision that you had always dreamed of. Find that perfect, most creative person to help turn your visions into a reality, and have fun with it! And never get too stressed out.  Remember that this day that you’re planning is happening because two people fell in love and want to share their love with their closest family and friends. It’s not about the party and how much you spend, it’s about the happiness that you show and embrace. – Mecca

Details matter

I am a very detail-oriented person, and I very much enjoyed planning our wedding. My best advice is to plan and do as much as you can as early as you can. We started looking for a reception venue immediately after our engagement and had chosen and booked it within two weeks. We knew our wedding would be held at our church so we contacted our priest, went through the process required by the church for marriage and booked our date. Knowing the wedding and reception venues right away made it so much easier to plan everything around them. We had all of our major planning and doing done by the end of September, and most of our large details determined, purchased or reserved by the end of January (four months before the wedding). Having those things done meant I was able to concentrate on all the small details that really make all the difference. In short, do not procrastinate with all things wedding. If you think to yourself, “There will be time for this later,” there probably won’t be. There will be many unexpected things to deal with as the wedding gets closer, and you don’t want to be frustrated and feeling (more) stressed leading up to one of the most beautiful and memorable days of your life.

Two more things: First, the Internet is your friend; I ordered a large percentage of our wedding items online. Just make sure to check the site’s return policies. Second, some things are worth splurging on; decide what you are willing to splurge on, and then get creative with the rest.  – Liz

Keep calm

Stay true to yourself and take deep breaths!  – Windy

Remember what is most important

Stay true to yourselves and what is important to you as a couple for your special day. Expect that not everything will be perfect. Don’t sweat these details because, more than likely, you are the only one who will know. Remember what you are there for! Enjoy it while it lasts! All that planning and prep, and then it is over in a flash! – Hana

No time for procrastinating

My biggest piece of advice is “Don’t procrastinate!” I kept putting things off, and the week before the wedding I was very stressed and too busy to spend time with family and friends who had flown in. Also, don’t stress out too much on the day of your wedding. The day will fly by, so enjoy every minute of it! – Margo

Plan together

I would advise brides and grooms to discuss their priorities for the wedding. My husband and I wanted to have good food, to stick to our budget and to make the event personal. We focused on our priorities, and the rest fell into place. – Vy

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Published on April 27, 2016.

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